Jesus is the greatest teacher that ever lived. A good teacher will not only teach the theory but will also show how to apply that knowledge to their lives. One of the ways did this was through parables. After teaching the Lord’s Prayer which taught us what to pray, Jesus wants to demonstrate the importance of prayer in our lives. Jesus wants to share that prayer is not about the technical skills or the format but all about your heart. In short, prayer is not a ritual.
Just the fact that Jesus prays should stimulate our faith. Jesus’ praying challenges all of us to pray. For if the Son of God prayed then we must also pray. But it is also encouraging because Jesus was not above prayer and used prayer. Prayer was Jesus’ means of learning obedience (Hebrews 5:7-8). Unfortunately, we have so many reasons to not pray, due to our busyness, which ultimately becomes our excuse for disobeying. Little prayer is little obedience. Remember, we are born again to pray, we are born again to obey.
How does God view our prayers? God receives our prayer as worship. Worship is the central desire God has for his people. Moses confronted Pharaoh so that the Israelites could worship the Lord freely. In heaven, God gathers our prayers in golden bowls (Revelation 5:8). How amazing prayer is. So ask yourself, how full is your bowl in heaven? Prayer also brings us close to the Holy Spirit. We are too weak to pray and our prayers are poor, which is why the Holy Spirit is constantly present to aid us in our prayer (Romans 8:26). In Isaiah 38:1-5, when Hezekiah heard from God that he would die, he began to pray. God heard Hezekiah’s prayer and saw his tears. Again it’s amazing that God hears our prayers. He is such a loving Father.
To continue teaching on prayer, Jesus begins speaking in a parable. A parable is a story that is presented alongside a truth in order to illustrate and aid the point of that truth. It is an earthly story with a heavenly truth. The purpose of this parable is the necessity of prayer. By prayer, the disciples would sustain their spiritual lives. They learn that prayer is one of the greatest gifts of salvation. Prayer and salvation are two oars rowing a boat where both are needed to go forward. This parable is the application of the Lord’s teaching of prayer.
“Which of you has a friend” or neighbor. We all have a friend or neighbor. This is the common ground to bring the truth into our own lives.
The parable sets the time “at midnight”. Remember, this is ancient Israel, when nothing is open and everyone is sleeping once it gets dark. At midnight, we go to our neighbor and ask for three loaves of bread.
The reason for this request is because another friend has visited at that hour and you have nothing to eat. The friend might have been late due to various reasons such as weather or other hardships. Of course, that friend would be hungry after such a late running journey. During Jesus’ day, hospitality was a very important part of their culture (Hebrews 13:2). It was a shame to fail in hospitality. So the neighbor is asked despite the late hour.
Naturally, there would be a problem asking for food from the neighbor’s friend. The neighbor says “Do not bother me” and is unwilling to get up. They are most likely very tired and probably have to be up early in the morning. Also, the door is shut. Back then, there was only one room in the house with one door, and opening the door would wake up everyone including the children. Anyone with kids knows how troublesome it is to have children wake up in the middle of the night. Ultimately the friend is unwilling and unable to get out of bed to give some food.
At this point we might ask, does God really answer prayers? Based on the friend’s response, it doesn’t seem like God is willing to answer our prayers. Yes, of course, God answers prayers! He even answered the prayers of one of the worst kings in Israel’s history (2 Chronicles 33:12-13). The Bible is full of examples of God answering prayers. The prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much (James 5:16-18). God hears every prayer and answers (Luke 1:13) because he is our Father. If you understand God is your heavenly Father then prayer makes a lot of sense and becomes your comfortable practice.
“I tell you” is a significant phrase from Jesus. It is used multiple times in His teachings before revealing an important truth. He is now going to make the key point of the parable. “Even though he will not arise and give him anything because he is his friend”. The friend will not get up because he is a friend. Instead, “because of his persistence he will get up and give him as much as he needs.”
This parable is popularly applied as persistence in prayer, to never give up on prayer. Persistence is important and it is emphasized in Luke 18:5 by the parable of the widow and the judge. However, based on the context of hospitality, we must understand the position of the host and the neighbor. It is shameful to fail in hospitality. The host has shame for not being able to provide bread because he didn’t have any, but the neighbor would face greater shame because he failed to be hospitable to his friend. The word persistence is rooted in shamelessness, continuing without shame. Not because he’s a friend but because he will not be shamed by the friend’s persistence, will the friend get up and give bread. In other words, God will not be shamed. There can be no slander against God’s name for God upholds His name to the highest.
Take for example the people of Israel, who were waiting for Moses to return from the top of Mt. Sinai. When Moses delayed, they rebelled against God and built a golden calf which they worshipped. They claimed it was the calf who saved them from Egypt. This insult to God and blaspheming of His name caused God’s anger to burn and He was about to consume them (Exodus 32:9-10). However, Moses pleaded with the Lord, saying if God were to destroy the Israelites His name would also be slandered among the Egyptians (Exodus 32:11-12). So the Israelites were shown mercy.
God loves His name. God will not be embarrassed of His name. This is why God must answer your prayer. He preserves His name. God doesn’t answer your prayer because of your friendship or your good works or because He owes you anything, but for His name’s sake. Don’t misunderstand Jesus’ point as leverage in prayer. The point is that through prayer, which is worship, God will be glorified as He answers.
So how did this understanding of prayer impact the disciples? Whatever happened, they prayed first. Like David who prayed shamelessly for his baby who was born from an affair. Even though David was wrong, he prayed to God, because He knows God hears our prayers. Also, prayer is the best gift for the believer. Just because God has not answered your prayers doesn’t mean we shouldn’t pray. Think of how many prayers God has answered. Peter was thrown into prison and surrounded by guards. There was no hope for his escape. In Acts 12:5, “So Peter was kept in the prison, but prayer for him was being made fervently by the church of God”. There is always hope in prayer. Remember the gospel which has brought hope to the hopeless. It is never too late and it is never impossible for God. That is why we pray and why God answers.